Friendship Rules
* Stand up for friend in his or her absence
* Share information and feelings about successes
* Demonstrate emotional support
* Trust each other; confide in each other
* Often to help your friend in time of need
* Try to make your friends happy when the two of you are together
* Don't criticize in public
* Keep confidences
* Don't be jealous or negative about other relationships
* Respect your friend's privacy
When this rules are followed are followed, the friendship is strong and mutually satisfying. When these rules are broken, interpersonal conflict is likely to occur.
Romantic Rules
Rules that both keep the relatoinship together and when broken, lead to deterioration and eventually to dissolution. If you have had a serious romantic relationship, think about it as you examine the rules that follow; if you have not had such a relationship, think about the relationship you want. As you read the list, consider your own relationship behaviors. Do you and your partner
- acknowledge each other's individual identities and lives beyond the relationship?
- express similiar attitudes, beliefs, values, and interests?
- enhance each other's self- worth and self- esteem?
- remain loyal and faithful to each other?
- have substantial shared time together?
- attempts to make your interactions enjoyable?
- listen and try not to judge?
- act cheerful and positive?
- compliment each other's achievement?
- try to avoid embarrassing each other?
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